tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post5590606402497584966..comments2023-12-17T02:58:19.521-08:00Comments on Self Sagacity: Thursday Two Question #96 - Obsessed or Temporarily Insane?Self Sagacityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-33618606954393504262012-07-23T15:58:17.491-07:002012-07-23T15:58:17.491-07:00Crazy. Who would hand out calling cards to friends...Crazy. Who would hand out calling cards to friends, he must have had very low IQ or just a plain jackass!Self Sagacityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-33198515415092024122012-07-23T15:56:22.250-07:002012-07-23T15:56:22.250-07:00In a normal world. All these behaviors are borderl...In a normal world. All these behaviors are borderline psycho to me. In that world, it all seems like everyday life. <br />Children is the reason to stay and so is fear. The fear will keep us from venturing out from the trap.Self Sagacityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-49542377023203804142012-07-22T16:05:07.330-07:002012-07-22T16:05:07.330-07:00As everyone else has said above, none of that is n...As everyone else has said above, none of that is normal behavior. I'm glad you got out of that relationship. <br /><br />I have never had to deal with an abusive partner while dating or in a relationship. My sweet hubby thinks men who behave that way are cowards. <br /><br />I can't think of anything that would make me feel like I had to stay. If there were children it would be all the more reason to leave. <br /><br />Sorry I missed this week Amanda, I'll be back next week.SquirrelQueenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00634513897599275287noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-35916285313375438892012-07-20T01:53:24.059-07:002012-07-20T01:53:24.059-07:00Those are so scary.
I'm glad you are out and...Those are so scary. <br /><br />I'm glad you are out and here, stronger. <br /><br />I've only been in one relationship. <br />2. If I had children in the relationship and I had to get a job and roof and steady before I can leave. <br /><br />The women are usually at a disadvantage with being able to just get up and leave.Colette Shttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04844522784600855200noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-68325263162486383502012-07-20T01:06:24.488-07:002012-07-20T01:06:24.488-07:00All I can say is WOW.
That first one has always b...All I can say is WOW.<br /><br />That first one has always been a fear of mine. It's just SO personal and vindicative!<br /><br />I've dealt with my share of crazy in the past. And I agree with those who have commented before me - none of those activities are normal or acceptable in a relationship - they are abusive, manipulative, controlling, stalkerish - DANGEROUS. They are the types of things that as soon as you see the first signs of them - RUN as fast as you can in the other direction!Create With Joyhttp://create-with-joy.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-15119758233011801222012-07-19T13:01:26.777-07:002012-07-19T13:01:26.777-07:00None of what you described is "normal" b...None of what you described is "normal" behavior and I'm sure I'd be gone at the first instance. No one has the right to take away your comfort and hopefully, you wouldn't allow it to happen routinely.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00052044196919891894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-45568113851284031262012-07-19T08:33:40.109-07:002012-07-19T08:33:40.109-07:00Those examples you mentioned are all abuse. It do...Those examples you mentioned are all abuse. It does not have to be violent to be abusive, it can also be mental abuse. I would not put up with any of it.Stud Muffinnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-9453900215601922472012-07-19T04:31:10.704-07:002012-07-19T04:31:10.704-07:00I've been married to my DH for 33 years and be...I've been married to my DH for 33 years and before this, we dated for almost 3 years. I have had very little experience dealing with an odd set of circumstances, except the boy I was dating prior to DH. He was a bit obcessed, but I was too young to know better. He was actually evil, but he did not want me to see my friends as he thought they were stupid. The truth of the matter is they were just young teenage girls who in fact are often times stupid behavioring, including myself. For a year, I allowed myself to be subjected to his control until I found out he was cheating on me and that was it. I ended things in blink of an eye. This was a good thing. As it turns out, this boy to the best of my knowledge is on his third marriage. I could've been one of these statistics if I had stayed in that relationship. God works in mysterious ways, does He not? =D Thanks for hosting, Amanda!Cathy Kennedyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01056276734145310231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-22080120132371290372012-07-18T20:14:13.113-07:002012-07-18T20:14:13.113-07:00Amanda, this is scary. First, I wouldn't stay...Amanda, this is scary. First, I wouldn't stay one minute longer than what I felt was safe for me to leave. Second I ask for all of God's blessings for you. No one should have to endure or be subjected to any this.<br /><br />I would not stay any longer than what I needed to be sure I was as safe as could be for anything that I can think of. Not for economics nor living quarters, not for any 'good days' that he might have, not for any promises that he might make and for sure not for any threats he might make. But be careful for your safety!<br /><br />Any spousal abuse I might have sustained would have been verbal while she was angry. Probably I was supposed to be angry in return but that isn't my nature. I just get hurt feelings.<br /><br />My mom was subject to some physical abuse as were us was I when growing up. All of a sudden Dad started to go to church and never hit my mom again that I knew of (he did punch me still a few times).<br /><br />((((HUGS)))), <br />..Jimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02982249173214655060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-51596046624700640602012-07-18T16:57:31.576-07:002012-07-18T16:57:31.576-07:00Amanda, I have had many strange things done to me ...Amanda, I have had many strange things done to me by exes such as having one get calling cards in my name and hand them out to his friends to call the Bahamas and so forth, had all my appliances stolen, been beaten, verbally abused, raped, had all my plants dumped in the incinerator, my pictures of the kids destroyed and their baby books, and many more things. The worse things were the things they did to our/my children. I would prefer to live alone rather than live through any of this again!!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02383088026534281295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-83955185000227468972012-07-18T16:47:03.868-07:002012-07-18T16:47:03.868-07:00Firstly, those are some very obsessive/possessive ...Firstly, those are some very obsessive/possessive behaviors and sort of scary to be around.<br /><br />Secondly, I had my share of just out of this world terrible, but I couldn't reveal them now or ever.<br /><br />To answer your second question, for me it has to be the children that I put first on my list, but then it has to end some times as the children will grow up.Icy BChttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14137249916575963385noreply@blogger.com