tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post2001801942672181616..comments2023-12-17T02:58:19.521-08:00Comments on Self Sagacity: 3 Phases of Sexless Relationship Slow DeathSelf Sagacityhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comBlogger217125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-90738775787301719352015-09-25T20:19:44.219-07:002015-09-25T20:19:44.219-07:00MY HUSBAND LEFT ME AFTER 9 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. IT W...MY HUSBAND LEFT ME AFTER 9 YEARS OF MARRIAGE. IT WAS SO DEVASTATING UNTIL I MEET THIS SPELL CASTER WHO SAID HE COULD DO ANYTHING ANY MAN COULD THINK ABOUT I TOLD HIM ABOUT MY CONDITION AND HE ONLY ASKED FOR MY HUSBANDS DETAILS AND AFTER THREE DAYS HE CAME BEGGING. WE HAVE RENEWED OUR WEDDING VOWS AND ALL THANKS TO THE GREAT SPIRITUALIST DR OGUL YOU CAN CONTACT HIM ON doctorogul@gmail.com<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00894800057017467735noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-16343505535614404612015-06-15T14:45:11.424-07:002015-06-15T14:45:11.424-07:00After being in relationship with Harry for Five ye...After being in relationship with Harry for Five years, he broke up with<br />me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I<br />wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him<br />with everything, I made promises but he refused. but one day I<br />explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should<br />rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring<br />him back but I am the type that never believed in love spell,<br />I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told<br />me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days,<br />that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and<br />surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I<br />was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so<br />sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him,<br />that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how<br />we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made<br />promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be<br />of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and<br />powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is<br />different from all the fake ones out there. Anybody could need the help<br />of the spell caster, his email: druguelspellhome1@gmail.com you can<br />email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or anything.i<br />CAN NEVER STOP TALKING ABOUT YOU SIR HIS EMAIL ADDRESS IS:Amandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15166813006709570956noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-85680241601064959942015-05-02T17:55:29.641-07:002015-05-02T17:55:29.641-07:00After being in relationship with him for 3 years,h...After being in relationship with him for 3 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is DRABEGDIONSPELLCASTERR@GMAIL.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem. <br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088169404548994845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-74297179374078015422015-05-02T16:38:58.138-07:002015-05-02T16:38:58.138-07:00After being in relationship with him for 3 years,h...After being in relationship with him for 3 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is DRABEGDIONSPELLCASTERR@GMAIL.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem. <br /><br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088169404548994845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-78148814884118939232015-05-01T13:38:45.681-07:002015-05-01T13:38:45.681-07:00After being in relationship with him for 3 years,h...After being in relationship with him for 3 years,he broke up with me, I did everything possible to bring him back but all was in vain, I wanted him back so much because of the love I have for him, I begged him with everything, I made promises but he refused. I explained my problem to someone online and she suggested that I should rather contact a spell caster that could help me cast a spell to bring him back but I am the type that never believed in spell, I had no choice than to try it, I mailed the spell caster, and he told me there was no problem that everything will be okay before three days, that my ex will return to me before three days, he cast the spell and surprisingly in the second day, it was around 4pm. My ex called me, I was so surprised, I answered the call and all he said was that he was so sorry for everything that happened, that he wanted me to return to him, that he loves me so much. I was so happy and went to him, that was how we started living together happily again. Since then, I have made promise that anybody I know that have a relationship problem, I would be of help to such person by referring him or her to the only real and powerful spell caster who helped me with my own problem and who is different from all the other ones out there. Anybody could need the help of the spell caster, his email is DRABEGDIONSPELLCASTERR@GMAIL.COM you can email him if you need his assistance in your relationship or any other problem.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12088169404548994845noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-65571434978127770932013-08-30T14:05:22.791-07:002013-08-30T14:05:22.791-07:00Part 3 of 3 -Two days ago I called him on the comp...Part 3 of 3 -Two days ago I called him on the computer playing again. I was working in the yard and watching our new kitten- even for our place in August it was a pleasant evening. I got the "ok 5 minutes honey" response & 10 min later I came in and he was playing on the computer still. I asked if he was coming out and I got the "in a minute" response. He was SHOCKED that I was hurt that he wouldn't spend time with me when I asked and that I criticized him for not making time for me – He’s very into the trying to shift the blame game. Again I'm VERY self-sufficient so me asking him to do something/spend time with me, maybe happens once a week - but every time he puts me on that FAR back burner and is so willing to bend over backwards for others or to post pictures of whatever he had for dinner on Facebook instead of hitting on one of the few things I've asked him to - it hurts. He got so pissed at me that he slammed the door when he went in, slammed the door on the fridge and broke one of the shelves, had a couple of shots of tequila and a couple of margaritas and was cold to me for the rest of the evening. Once again this has happened multiple times in our relationship.<br /><br />Last night we had a talk and insisted at the start that he keep his anger in check. I asked if he was angry at this year (which has sucked BIG TIME but our problems existed before the year started), his work (that’s pretty constant), and/or me. And he said all three – he said that I’ve changed and he can’t keep up with my “mood swings”. He thinks it’s the diet change and I think he’s right – I’m feeling more “myself” than I have in most of the past 15 years. If he knew I was mostly off the anti-depressants he’d insist that I’d go back on them – he’s much more comfortable with a sedated wife.<br /><br />He had very little to say (except again “do you want a divorce?”) and lot of justifications that he wouldn’t get into (“I’m saving them for counseling”), but he did agree to the marriage counseling for us and depression/anger management therapy for him. He’s really hurt that I won’t buy into his promises that “I’ll try and do better” this time around. I’ve gotten that too many times in the past & maybe there’s an improvement for a little while, but then he slips back into his old habits…. <br /><br />Here’s a good one – I asked him when was that last time he voluntarily just did a chore outside of his couple of <15min normal ones (take out the trash, feed animals, occasionally deal with poop or dishes) and he couldn’t remember – I can’t either. Or when was the last time he completed one of his chores that he has on his very short to do list – it’s been years. <br /><br />A couple of things that really piss me off: (1) he has an amazing memory for things he gives a crap about – his research, movies, books and music he’s into – people want him to play on pub quizzes with them…. but as far as working on a to do list or remembering that one even exists?!? Basically he’s keep saying that he doesn’t give a crap about it and isn’t willing to really try for more than a month or so just to please me - again I’ve trod this road before. (2) He’s been criticizing a divorced friend for not working on his marriage harder and saying things like “part of marriage is compromise!” – yeah mine - but in my case it isn’t even compromise – it’s surrender. (3) He also said during my list of grievances that he would try harder but that things like chores just weren’t important to him but also that he wouldn’t change himself – was resistant to even trying…. we’ll see if the counseling/anti-depressants at least get him to being a person can live with. <br /><br />So here I am at stage 3…. I don’t need much (never have), but I do need some intimacy and support. Wondering now if the shock of counseling/drugs will revive him at all or if eventually we’ll go our separate ways.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-65970276811255854752013-08-30T14:04:55.889-07:002013-08-30T14:04:55.889-07:00Part 2-When interrupt him when he's doing some...Part 2-When interrupt him when he's doing something he likes and I ask him to spend some time with me - talk to me while I do chores, walk with the dogs and me - I ask more than once and all I usually get is anger. Also when he asks me to do something I usually get it done that day - and all I get is a thanks. I try so hard for him that it hurts a lot when he blows me off. I listen to him going off on his research or one of his rants (every once and a while I just can’t any more though and it hurts his feelings when I tell him he’s on a soapbox). I try not to nag or criticize because those also bring out his anger.... and he thinks we live in a marriage written by Walt Disney. Basically I bring in a paycheck, cope with as much as I can around the house/yard/finances... I'm a live-in maid/maintenance worker/secretary that gets none of the FWB benefits! Plus all the emotional baggage of an ignored spouse! <br /><br />I will say though part of the reason I've let him get away with this so long is that he's got a more stable job where he does always put in 40 hours/week and there are many times where I have less work. I’m totally willing to pick up on most of the slack – I like doing some of these things, but the depression hits so hard that there are also days I can’t get out of bed. He loves science and he isn't paid to do research at it so that part of him at home is ok with me.... but still - all he has to do is commit to us - to help with chores when I ask and give me more intimacy & it'd be ok. <br /><br />About me - I'm extremely self-sufficient and a low maintenance kind of girl but even with that I've been through depression (still am), heavy self-esteem issues, suppressing everything and actively trying to forget as much of the negative as possible, weight gain (not to the new US norm, but 30 lbs at the worst), carb abuse to the point of it causing illness... For the longest time I thought that the illness symptoms were because there was something wrong with me till I figured out I was eating too many carbs, and now I've lost most of the weight, my body doesn't feel drained all the time, and I've regained a lot of my self-confidence... Also am mostly off the anti-depressants that were suppressing my libido to a point where it matched his & that was helping keep me sane in this situation.<br /><br />Amazing thing with the weight-loss & feeling better - I stood up to him a couple of weeks ago when I was "frisky" (even though the timing was horrible – death in his family- I couldn’t contain my needs anymore – it had been over 6 months!) and he was not remotely interested (because of the death, but I don’t really think that really changed his libido). When I stood up to him and broke down crying this last time (yes there have been plenty of times before) the 1st thing he asked was "do you want a divorce?" NO YOU IDIOT I MARRIED YOU! I WANT YOU TO FIX THIS! He got VERY angry, left the house and went walking till ~midnight. Since then he's been trying to "meet my needs" but he's also resentful and has not initiated anything himself.- Part 3 next<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-35418589843112515742013-08-30T14:04:10.370-07:002013-08-30T14:04:10.370-07:00I'm at phase 3 and I'm so tired of all the...I'm at phase 3 and I'm so tired of all the broken promises..... HOWEVER THERE MAY BE HOPE! Bear with me ‘cause this is a LONG POST! PART 1 - <br /><br />I'm having him go in for a depression analysis - apparently guys show both the typical "female" oriented signs of depression, but "One measure, which they called the Male Symptoms Scale (MSS) included eight symptoms associated with the hypothesis of male-type depression: irritability, anger attacks/aggression, sleep disturbance, alcohol or other drug abuse, risk-taking behavior, hyperactivity, stress, and loss of interest in pleasurable activities. The second measure, which they named the Gender Inclusive Depression Scale (GIDS) included all these symptoms plus more traditional symptoms of depression, including sad/depressed mood, loss of vitality, tiredness, ambivalence, anxiety/uneasiness, and complaintiveness (feeling hopeless or pathetic)."- <br />http://www.medpagetoday.com/Psychiatry/Depression/41249 - SOUND FAMILIAR ANYONE!?!? Another site also listed workaholism as a sign of depression – as a way to mask it.<br /><br />It may be that many of these women getting no sex from their husbands are dealing with a depressed male - MEANING IN SOME OF THESE CASES THE SITUATION MAY BE SALVAGEABLE IF THEY CAN GET HIM IN FOR A DEPRESSION CHECK! <br /><br />As for me, from the outside everyone we know thinks we have a fairly perfect relationship. What they are actually seeing are best friends & roommates and nothing more. When we meet other professionals in the field, I always feel inadequate since I’m not someone who goes around publishing a lot – more an advanced tech. It’s always hey so & so I just read your paper/wanted to talk with you about a research project/ whatever… and here’s my wife/ appendage!<br /><br />In our marriage (17 years now) sex has dwindled from low (maybe once a month) to ~2 times per year. He works hard with a female boss (and has now for 22 years) who constantly plays mental games and is all about herself - basically a 12 year old brat in a 45 year old body. <br /><br />His place of business is failing, he gets shit on all the time by his boss if he's not kissing her feet/ ass/ whatever, but he's unwilling to move to another position because (a) he likes the title on his business card, and (b) the job market for our type of work is so tight that we've got newly minted PhD's who go years without finding a position.<br /><br />At home usually all I get is a morning kiss that he insists he has every day. He claims to still love me and to find me attractive… but then he doesn’t want to have sex with me or participate in our life unless it’s fun for him – I’m so glad I would never agree to having children – what used to be a trend of disinterest in our life is now full on avoidance in anything he doesn’t want to deal with. <br /><br />Once he gets home if he's not working on one of the many research projects he's over-committed himself to then he's doing something fun for himself - e.g.: Facebook, movies, reading, eating poorly... If I as him to do a chore that takes more than 15 min of his time, 80-90% of the time he won't do it. When I ask him more than once all I get is anger..... So you stop asking right? And try to keep up with your work plus maintaining a semblance of a clean home/yard as well. And all I get is "thanks for doing that honey" and a peck on the cheek or forehead.-Part 2 nextAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-16870198441452139572013-08-26T17:57:17.109-07:002013-08-26T17:57:17.109-07:00Yes. I have often wondered why there aren't mo...Yes. I have often wondered why there aren't more pools for men and women to find each other. It seemed like such a waste. So many unhappy men and unhappy women in relationships that it is just sad. They are hanging on to life or wasting it away. Wouldn't it be wonderful to have a great partner, enjoy life together and live happily ever after? Life is too short. Most of these low desire people should be with low desire matches, otherwise it is really difficult to find the happy medium. Thanks for your comment.Self Sagacityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-72333888725630567522013-08-26T16:35:48.587-07:002013-08-26T16:35:48.587-07:00My life has been terrible and in a way its my own ...My life has been terrible and in a way its my own fault. Weve been married 45+ years and my selfish husband only had sex with me once. I should have ran out the door but being young I stayed and thought things would get better. It just wasn't going to happen, he just hated sex and me, so he moved to the basement and went on the midnight shift to get away from me. Now we never really had a lot of money where I could scim money off the top to go out on my own. I had no where to go, no kids or real family. So I wasted all these years and now I'm in my 60s and really just don't care any more.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-11576483241971381942013-08-18T08:15:59.962-07:002013-08-18T08:15:59.962-07:00Well, what if the woman actually caused all of thi...Well, what if the woman actually caused all of this upon the relationschip by being verbally and emotionally abusive towards the husband, cutting of contacts, making herself unapproachable, non interested in sex, spelling power and controlling behavior - after all this and having been through my first BD breakdown ( wich might have been a PTSD event ) she get on cutting me down - it kills from her end then - making the husband emotionally cold, sensually broken hearted and uninterested in a close relation. The then destroys the relation for both. An abused man distrust the woman, refuse intimacy, and are reluctant for closeness - he can hardly feel deep love and sexual desire for his abuser - i have been through it and i feel like this - we just live together for out girl, accept one another as such, but that's close to it. I long for sex and intimacy but with another woman - as i feel a n abuser cant ever be entitled real love back after such abuse. Having been abused and terrorized this way, a deep place in my heart feel vendetta inside - like daggers in the night - this is like a revenge in silence ,,,,,,,,,,, aint life a strife, like a spell in the night, moonshine shining the path through - someplace roads divert, break up, and might be filld with new life and new love.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-82970648082201124882013-08-16T08:30:52.907-07:002013-08-16T08:30:52.907-07:00I stumbled across an article called "My Husba...I stumbled across an article called "My Husband, My Hero" the other day. The writer bragged about the role of a man and how wives are supposed to look up to their husbands. The writer was a Christian woman and used biblical descriptions of a man's role to described the enormous responsibility of a man to his family; what she forgot to mentioned was the biblical rules for husbands to follow are not being executed by most men, not even Christian men. She even used the media as a crutch to set them up to failed, not a tool for them to self-indulge such as porn lovers, emotional cheating, virtual flirting, etc... I was disgusted to the point of writing a comment for her to seek the other 90% of men of today's standard. I was angry that not only she is unaware of how many men failed biblically of their roles let alone be a hero. I am sure many women here would love to be able to say the same. The comments on this article haven’t stopped. For the men that are reading this article, maybe some of you are in the 10% of the "Hero Husbands"; in that case, I salute you! Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-12972291287314940062013-08-13T16:06:53.456-07:002013-08-13T16:06:53.456-07:00My wife and I separated Last year September, I wil...My wife and I separated Last year September, I will agree I wasn't true to myself and her. But i did all I could let her have a good life I did put all my energy into our little family as we have 2 beautiful kids.because I worked As a waiter she didn't really like that for a career, she thought i didn't want to do well in my life. last year as the harsh finance situation hit as we've been suffering with our finance for a while she decided to end our marriage. which i was very devastated!! to lose the love of my life, but a month after separation i went to France for 10days to clear my head. when i got back she wanted me back but she didn't want romantic side of it a month after xmas she told me again that she cant do it anymore as our finance was at lowest. then we made a decision to end it to sort our lives out...but my prayer everyday for her to realize that i am not a loser all i wanted is to do what i could to put food on the table and roof over their head. since the second separation i am qualified football coach and fitness instructor and doing more toward my career but I don't want to get into a relationship with another woman when my wife and I suffered all of this years when my career takes of shes not there to enjoy it with me..I really want her back in my life so i contacted this spell caster DR ZUMA who now help me to bring her back, we now have a happy family together with my wife. If you want his help you reach him via email at templeofsolution@yahoo.comAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-25032669501637796322013-08-13T05:31:45.008-07:002013-08-13T05:31:45.008-07:00After ten years of no sex in my marriage I found t...After ten years of no sex in my marriage I found the answer and it wasn't divorce. We had too much still going for us. We trusted each other with our money, we liked each others company, we had a family, history, business, property, similar interests (he-just not sex) I knew I wasn't unattractive. Though it did hurt some and I felt that he had tricked me before marriage with him having sex with me 4 to 5 times a week. I prefer it daily. I still do. My husband knew I was a gal who loved sex when he married me. and since nothing was going to change with him ( yes I did tell him that I wanted more sex with him many times....always very nice too) I had to change that one area he didn't care to fill. So for last 7 years I have had the boyfriend 20 yrs my junior for sex. Only problem is after three years I found myself in love with boyfriend. Well, hubby knows about boyfriend. Hubby knows I am in love with them both. And it's me who is caught in the middle of it all feeling shitty because I won't leave hubby and run off with boyfriend. It wouldn't work if I did. I love boyfriend but know it's a love based on sex. And if I run off with boyfriend I will end up alone in my old age and that's something I don't want for myself. Boyfriend is going to want to settle down with the right woman and start a family and if he is with me he will have to cheat on me to find this Miss Right. He won't have the heart to tell me and so he will try to hide it. So for now I work hard at keeping boyfriend around but outta sight from hubby who knows but just doesn't want it shoved in his face. Boyfriend leaves his markings behind for hubby to stumble over hoping to piss off hubby and hubby leave me. Love triangles never turn out with everyone happy. someone always gets hurt. I believe that all three people are hurting in my case. So fixing one area for me only created other area of problems and resentments. Hubby swears he has never been with any other woman, but I don't believe that. We had two years apart. I am thinking hubby could be gay. It only makes sense Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-60096606321938159312013-08-12T16:12:46.317-07:002013-08-12T16:12:46.317-07:00My sexual relationship with my husband had no time... My sexual relationship with my husband had no time for a slow death. The day after our wedding it died, turned to dust and blew away. We never had sex before marriage, in fact he never tried anything intimate with me. That should of told me something but it didn't, I guess I never thought about it, I was in LOVE. Maybe he was at that moment but that's all. We made first time love on our wedding night then it just faded away. He told me the next day he hated sex, couldn't understand what the big deal also that it was disgusting and gross to do some thing like that to another human. Well! its been 45+ years since this all happened. We really never lived together he down stairs me on the upper level. Its been a horrible life and its my fault for staying with this very uncaring ugly person. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-33382651935689958052013-08-11T02:33:30.612-07:002013-08-11T02:33:30.612-07:00I have been with my partner for 8 months and we fi...I have been with my partner for 8 months and we first met we had sex all the time, but over time he mentionec he liked porn, which is fine as so do I, then it started that he liked to watch me using my toys while watching porns and he would also pleasure himself but we would still have sex, now I am lucky if I get anything, instead he would rather watch porn on his own and thats it.... he doesnt kiss me properly that stopped within the first few months, he tells me he loves me and I mean everything to him, but I feel very alone and dont have anyone to talk too. I was in a sexless relationship before for 4 years and can not go through that again, I am only 38 and this is tearing me apart inside so much so that I spend alot of my alone time crying and wondering whats wrong with me?? As I know he still watches porn but just doesnt want anything with me... I cant cope with the rejection anymore and have had to go on antidepressantsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-32211655639465804322013-08-10T01:32:05.398-07:002013-08-10T01:32:05.398-07:00It's interesting that there's women who ar...It's interesting that there's women who aren't getting sex from their men. Usually it's a case of women stopping being interested in sex after marriage which is my problem. I'm horny every day at 30 I still feel like I did as a 20 year old but my wife says she just hates sex now. Apparently it's not me, she says there's no one else she just isn't interested. When we do have sex she says things like "just hurry up and cum". What's more annoying is I comply and concentrate on bringing on the orgasm and then right as I'm about to blow she finally gets into it and then complains that she didn't get to cum. But if I try to use foreplay to get her into it before hand she gets even more frustrated and doesn't even want to continue with the sex. I actually have oral fixation both ways, 69 is my favorite even though women with enough skill to make me cum orally are extremely rare, there's been one out of 20 in my life wish I could've kept her. (retarded ejaculation or something I dunno, I can cum during penetration and can concentrate on it so I've never really considered it a problem) Anyway... all this makes me wonder if dating game needs to change, for good long term relationships if only we could figure out ahead of time who's going to have similar long term sex drives.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-85829304588986822162013-08-03T17:31:19.247-07:002013-08-03T17:31:19.247-07:00I am a woman who came to the same conclusion. Afte...I am a woman who came to the same conclusion. After years of trying every solution, I decided to find sex with other partners so that I am not a grumpy bitch towards my husband. I don't even think he notices that I have a swing in my step and a smile ear to ear, but MY emotional and sexual health is greatly improved and I feel like a new person. The greatest part is I can be the best kind of wife and mother I have always wanted to be! I know there can be consequences: I figure the marriage was doomed if I continued in a sexless marriage anyway, so the fear of being discovered is greatly lessened. I know most people don't want to cheat, but trust me when I tell you it is severely under-rated as a solution for a high and low drive sexless marriage!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-71375288807606763242013-07-23T09:38:57.970-07:002013-07-23T09:38:57.970-07:00Tired of begging
im 40 mwm 3 kids married close t...Tired of begging<br /><br />im 40 mwm 3 kids married close to 15 years. feel like in a sexless marriage i would prefer everyday but know that not going to happen shes like every 6 weeks if that i try to compromise i give her oral i get none in return i love her dearly she is a keeper but im frustrated sexually. i have to masturbate to relieve myself i don't think this is fair.<br />Anonymous in USA<br /><br /> Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-53263588741572653112013-07-22T07:29:33.744-07:002013-07-22T07:29:33.744-07:00Wow you are beyond bitter!
She has given you rea...Wow you are beyond bitter! <br />She has given you reasons to be TRASH, beyond RECYCLE. <br />You have the most disgusting reply among all these hurting people. <br />Heh heh hehAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-48482164490612238452013-07-22T05:42:20.068-07:002013-07-22T05:42:20.068-07:00Thanks for replying to my post.
You are right ...Thanks for replying to my post. <br />You are right 'I don't know' does equal 'I don't really care'.<br /><br />Now I think to myself 'why on earth did I even want to have sex with someone who wasn't really interested? I'm worth more than that'.<br /><br />I once suggested to my husband that as he wasn't interested, would he mind if I discretely had my needs met elsewhere. He definitely did not like that idea! I have met just one person, online, who has a lover with her husband's approval, as long as she is discrete and always 'goes back to him'. All the others seem to have the attitude 'I don't want you, but I don't want anyone else enjoying you either'. <br /><br />Does being at the end of the third phase mean you are going to leave him? If so, then I admire you and wish you loads of luck in a new life!acceptingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-41256544364508794632013-07-22T05:28:21.532-07:002013-07-22T05:28:21.532-07:00I mean no offence to anyone with this post as I ma...<br /><br />I mean no offence to anyone with this post as I may be totally wrong and I am not accusing all men of being paedophiles, but there are so many news reports in the media about paedophiles, both active and those who look at child porn, and I remember reading a discussion between men about the ages of 'hot women' and the conclusion was that only females in their teens and early twenties were sexually desirable. A quick google search confirmed that there seems to be alot of 'young teens' porn. In some countries, girls are married at an age that would be considered disgustingly young in our culture. <br />Might it be the case that men are biologically programmed to desire young, very fertile females? It is a horrible thought, but, maybe there are many 'closet' men who find young girls appealing and are simply not attracted to adult females? acceptingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-54562271923992857022013-07-22T05:09:38.781-07:002013-07-22T05:09:38.781-07:00In some ways you are right, but, nothing is ever t...In some ways you are right, but, nothing is ever that simple! <br />If it is the beginning of a relationship, then yes, it would be easy to walk away, but, often the relationship was good to start with and the sexless thing only becomes apparent months or even years later and, in the meantime you have become very fond of the sexless partner and keep hoping the situation will improve and all will be good again.<br />Maybe the media portrayal of sex makes the situation worse as we think that everyone else is enjoying a healthy crazy sexlife and that makes the feelings of sadness and desperation even worse.acceptingnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-78557501949488327502013-07-21T23:16:14.561-07:002013-07-21T23:16:14.561-07:00Success! So awesome to know that the man can actua...Success! So awesome to know that the man can actually change and be more attentive. Really truly love you and concern about how you feel. You are the blessed one now. Communication is very important - but the most important element that I saw in your wonderful, inspiring story is the change in your husband. That change is what has brought on new eyes for him. Now he can actually see you as you are, and love you as he should. How wonderful it is to hear that you two hold hands to drift off to sleep. My SO and I do that too. <br />I wish more of the partners would change for the better and enjoy life as they should. I can't imagine that one spouse can continue to watch the other not happy, tormented and not feel like they want to do something about it. Self Sagacityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14404148735941132540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5810566902374575347.post-80332557965810401842013-07-21T23:04:33.909-07:002013-07-21T23:04:33.909-07:00Thanks for sharing. This is exactly how I feel abo...Thanks for sharing. This is exactly how I feel about myself at some point. When my husband responded, I don't know! I want to ask him so bad: "Ok, now what?" What or how would you like me to do? What if you were on this side of the table, what would you do? Would you go find a sex buddy? Would you call quits with this marriage? Would you try to do something about it?" I don't know and I don't want to talk about it are two responses that basically are the same as I don't give a hoot about your feelings. <br /><br />For many women in general, there is nothing wrong with them in terms of looks or personality. Yet, trapped in a sexless relationship and suddenly they will start thinking there everything wrong with them, or their body. The mental sadness and depression sets in. Especially when they are the one that has to always bring up the subject, or initiate the sex. <br />I haven't try flirting online yet, but that might be the way to get something emotionally. <br />I sometimes wondered if cheating should be classified as cheating in sexless situations. Since the mate doesn't want it anyways so what does it matter if sex is done else where? The years go by and precious time had been wasted! I guess I am at the end of the third phase in Self Sagacity's article. LOLHopelessnoreply@blogger.com