It is hard to have friends when you have a family. Don't you think? I live a pretty hectic life, some things I do because I love how it makes me feel about life and about myself. And some things I do because I have to do it. So to keep up, my friends have to be self-sufficient while I am off doing my stuff, and most males are better at disappearing and giving me time off.
I have to be bloody honest here, but there could be other reasons besides my charms and personality why they still hung around for years. Perhaps it's because they secretly have fantasies about me, or it's because I give them my attention. And for the record, I can see ugliness... and also have a heart for ugly things.
From my perspective the reasons why I have these relationships is because:
- Some have the same ambitions as I do. We can trade-off knowledge, and show our encouragement as we venture on our endeavors.
- Some are very resourceful and I CAN count on them for help when needed.
Until one day, my guy friend decided to say something that broke the rules and respect of friendship. I get turned off and scared, and decided to place him in a different category. It is at this point I slowly work on less contact, and since the contacts were so infrequent already, I don't even have to worry about why.
Sometimes my technique backfired. The infrequent call happened one day and they didn't get a "Hey, how are you doing, long time no chat..." They kept calling because they are determined to know "how you are really doing?" and still no answer. They freaked out and tracked me down on other social media networks thinking something is wrong with me. And finally, they called me from an unknown number and actually caught me.
That's when I say: "Uh, well, my phone was dead for the last few weeks..." Yes, pretty lame, and I felt guilty for not having the guts to tell them exactly why, but I thought we were so infrequent that they won't even noticed my absence...
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1) Have you ever become friends (boy or girl) with anyone and totally regretted it?
2) Have you done something that you feel guilty about, but still do it?
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